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YAOHUSHUA Gives You Enriched Life....
| I agreed to this goal on this date: _________________ |
| 1. Chastisement poverty | Violating YAOHU UL's principles (Samson) | Influence others to obey YAOHU UL |
| 2. Trying poverty | Learning YAOHU UL's character (Job) | Helps others not to trust in riches |
| 3. Redemptive poverty | Giving wealth to others (Messiah) | Prompts others to praise YAOHU UL |
| 4. Attitude poverty | Realizing our need for YAOHU UL (Mehushua or Moses) | Encourages others to be humble |
to Financial Success |
Man's Way to |
1. Focus on submission |
1. Focus on power and position |
| 2. Emphasis on personal responsibility | 2. Emphasis on rights and freedom |
| 3. Desire to meet the needs of others | 3. Desire to gain for self |
| 4. Concern for enduring achievements | 4. Concern for immediate fulfillment |
| 5. Yearning for the approval of YAOHU UL | 5. Yearning for the praise of men |
| 6. Aspiration to serve others | 6. Aspiration to be served |
| 7. Need for patience | 7. Need for pushing ahead |
| 8. Eagerness to follow YAOHU UL | 8. Eagerness to lead men |
| 9. Working in cooperation | 9. Working in competition |
| 10. Motivation for YAOHU UL's glory | 10. Motivation for self-glorification |
| Date _______________________ |
Wife's Responses | |
| 1. Inferiority When a man fails to compre hend and accept unchangeable features in himself or in his family, he develops deep feelings of inferiority. |
Insecurity His wife needs to admire her husband and to depend upon him for wise and consistent leadership in the marriage and the family. |
| 2. Extravagance A husband who does not accept himself often attempts to improve his self-image through expensive clothings, cars, furnishings, and other status symbols. In order to buy these, he may go into debt. |
Fear His wife does not comprehend his need to go into debt for these expensive items. She outwardly accepts them but inwardly develops fears, worries and insecurity because of the debt. |
| 3. Wrong Priorities The husband commits himself to financial goals. He is motivated by the need of approval. In order to reach his goals, he encourages or allows his wife to begin working outside of the home. |
Divided Loyalty His wife goes to work and soon finds herself in two worlds. She discovers that needs which were not met by her husband can be at least partially fulfilled through her job. |
| 4. Rejection The husband who expects his wife to help support the family surrenders part of his YAOHU UL-given responsibility as provider. This only deepens his feelings of inferiority. He then projects onto his wife and children the same attitude of rejection which he has toward himself. |
Resentment His wife reacts to his rejection. She feels a growing resentment to the tight budget that they must follow because of his bad financial decisions. She begins to look for other people for fellowship and encouragement. |
| 5. Reaction The husband reacts to his wife's independent rukha (spirit). Financial pressures cause him to be quick-tempered and irritable. He expects his wife to have patience while he works through problems. However, the problems become worse. |
Divorce and Separation His wife loses confidence in his leadership as she sees the pressures mounting. She tries to give him counsel, but she does not comprehend his motivation. Convinced that he is proud and stubborn, his wife then decides that she must look out for her own personal interests. |
| 1. Lack of self-control Before their marriage, the husband was attracted to his wife on a physical level. During their courtship he violated YAOHU UL's moral norms with her. |
Guilt and doubt His wife lowered her standards to accept his physical affection before marriage. This damaged her self-respect and planted destructive seeds of guilt and doubt in her. |
| 2. Sensual Focus The husband began marriage by expecting his wife to fulfill his sexual needs. However, he was insensitive to her real needs because of his sensual expectations. |
Coolness His wife's seeds of guilt and doubt began to grow. She wondered if he really loved her or if he was only using her to gratify his own desires. This fear caused her to be physically cool toward him. |
| 3. Reaction The husband now reacts to his wife's coolness toward him. He begins to make demands that she meet his physical needs. |
Coldness His wife now sees his demands and continued insensitivity as confirmation that he does not love her. She becomes physically cold toward him. |
| 4. Giving bribes The husband senses that his wife has been offended. However, he does not realize how deep the wounds really are. He believes that buying her some expensive gifts will solve the problem. |
Rejection The more the husband goes into debt, the more the wife doubts his financial sensibilities. She refuses to accept the bribes realizing that this will only create more hardships and guilt on her part. |
| 5. Overemphasis on work He realizes that his gifts did not revive his wife's broken spirit. He tightens the budget and expects her to cooperate in order to get out of debt. He spends more time at work or gets additional work. This further hinders him in meeting his wife's real needs. |
Divorce and Separation His wife turns from him and focuses on her own vocation, the children, or the fantasy world of television; or she looks for sympathy and comprehension from the people with whom she works. |
True or False Query of the Day: